BULLIES NOT WELCOME!
The School Approach.
Bullying of any form, verbal or physical, will NOT be tolerated in our school. It is our belief that everyone involved with the school shares the responsibility for its prevention.
The school will react firmly and promptly where bullying is identified.
Various sanctions are available to staff, depending on the perceived seriousness of the situation. These include:
- Referral to Head / Deputy Headteacher.
- Discussion with parents and children.
- Withdrawal of favoured activities / privileges.
- Placement on ‘School Behaviour Programme’
- Exclusion from school during lunchtime.
- Exclusion from school.
The School’s Support.
The school will:
- Support children who are being bullied.
- Help bullies to change their behaviour.
- Show equal concern about bullying to and from school.
- Record incidents of bullying centrally to assist with future monitoring of behaviour.
- Discuss and involve children in agreed class / school. ‘Code of Conduct’ and display these in the classroom.
- Where appropriate request assistance from Special Educational Needs Support Service and Educational Psychologist.
- Involve the Social Services, Police and other relevant agencies where necessary.
The school will investigate and consider all incidents seriously by:
- Meeting those involved individually/as a group when appropriate.
- Use peer pressure to actively discourage bullying.
- Involve parents at an early stage.
- Break up bully groups where they may occur.
- Help children to develop positive strategies and assertion to combat bullying.
- If you are being bullied TELL SOMEONE. Tell your teacher, friends, parents, anyone you choose. You will find that everyone wants to help.
- Although it is difficult, try not to show the bullies that you are upset.
- Try to ignore their actions and behaviour. The more confident you appear, the more worried they will be. Their treatment of you is not working…you are winning.
- With your friends it may be possible to isolate the bully. Bullies are cowards. They do not like to be alone.
- If you are bullied because you are different in some way; skin colour, language, clothing etc. to that of the bully/bullies – DO NOT BE ASHAMED OR EMBARRASSED. People being different is what makes the world an interesting place. BE PROUD!
- If you know that certain situations could lead to you being bullied…avoid them if you can. If you are in danger…call for help, run away…this is not being weak…it’s being sensible.
ABOVE ALL REMEMBER TO TALK TO SOMEONE…..SOON!
Remember too that you can help stop the bullying of others.
- Don’t stand by and watch …. Fetch help.
- Show that you and your friends disapprove.
- Give help and sympathy to children who may be bullied.
- Be careful about teasing or personal remarks .. imagine how you would feel.
- If you know of any serious bullying, tell someone you trust. It’s not telling tales, the victim may be too lonely or scared to tell.
If you suspect that your child is being bullied watch out for any of these signs:
- Obvious unexplained signs of distress.
- Unwillingness to attend school.
- Regular complaints of ill health.
- Toys or equipment going missing.
- Requests for extra pocket money
There are many ways for the bullying of a child to manifest itself. Obviously early detection is important.
If you are concerned… talk to the school. Contact the Head teacher. She is there to help and listen.
Discussing the situation at home is obviously ideal. Your child may/ may not be willing to share the problem. General conversations about things happening in school may open up your child.
Above all, make sure something is done about it. Telling children to simply ‘give him / her as good as you get’ is seldom the answer. Please talk to the school as soon as you can… for your child’s sake.
All members of staff can play a part in combating bullying. The following points should assist us all to achieve success.
- BE AVAILABLE – at all times make it known to children that you are ready to listen. Break the ‘Code of Secrecy’ that often exists. Provide immediate support by discussing any issues with the child /children.
- INVESTIGATE – Every incident should be investigated as soon as possible. An interview with every party concerned is ideal. This should be done individually at the outset. This will remove any danger of intimidation and assist with the production of an accurate report.
- SEEK ASSISTANCE – no teacher should feel that they are alone. The task of managing an incident of bullying can be shared. Talk to the other members of staff, discuss the incident AS SOON AS POSSIBLE with Mr R James, Mrs Thomas-Jones or Miss Parry.. Obviously the teacher witnessing the event, or being involved with a child is best positioned to deal with the situation. This does not rule out assistance from others.
- RECORD – every incident of bullying must be recorded in the ‘Serious Incident Report Book’. Offenders should be made aware of this fact and so should their parents. Make sure everything is included – Names, description of events, times, places, comments made by all parties during the investigation. This can take time. Be aware of that and seek assistance from Mr R James.
- RESPOND – make sure that your response is in line with school policy. Do not suggest any punishment that cannot be administered. Stick to school policy taking it step by step, issuing punishment ‘fit for the crime’. Here is a perfect opportunity to discuss the incident with others. The offender can be told to wait –‘I think we need to meet again later to discuss this matter. Report to me/the Head teacher/the Deputy Head teacher etc. at break time’.
- FOLLOW IT UP – no incident should be allowed to disappear. Once a commitment has been made, it should be maintained. This will discourage bullies and encourage the victims. Both parties will see that you and the school mean business.